How I lost my fiance two months to our wedding — Allwell Ademola
P us-sized actress, Allwell Ademola is a bundle of talents, a rare
breed, who could do just about anything when it comes to entertainment. She’s an actress, scriptwriter, movie director, musician and film maker.
As interesting as her life seems, Allwell, like everyone, has her secret pains. In this Interview, she lets us into her private world, talking about her career, sex and love.
What’s your perspective of the movie industry?
I have been in the industry for a while though I came in through soaps but later moved into stage productions and now into more of film making. However, the industry has improved on so many things but we lack funds and support.
My father of blessed memory didn’t like Nigerian movies but the very first Nigerian movie he saw me do, he loved it and since then he would be the one to call my attention to auditions and adverts.
The long and short is that, we have really improved in our technicality, casting, picture quality, shootings, audio balancing, subtitling etc. Talking about casting, there was a time when most of us used our friends for some roles even when they were not appropriate for the roles. Now, that era has passed and we are doing well.
Why is Allwell not married?
I would have been married some years back, I lost my man two months to our wedding. He was shot by armed robbers and I mourned him for two years. After then, I went into another relationship with my best friend who was supposed to be our best man.
(He was my friend and he later became my man’s friend.) I later realised I didn’t know him well enough after we dated for eight months. That was another heart break. Haven suffered two heartbreaks , I decided to take it easy and fell in love with my job. For now, I am fine without a man.
So how do you manage sex since you are not in a relationship?
Sex for me has to do with my mind. If I was in a relationship, I could be very active sexually but since I am not in a relationship, what could bring the thought of sex into my mind? Even when I was in a relationship, I forget about sex when I am very busy. However, because I am human and the urge comes, what I do is call some friends and we hang out together.
Thank God, there is also sex toy. Sex toy will not break one’s heart or impregnates one. But that doesn’t mean that I use sex toy, I am telling you the options available.